I am now formally declaring that I have given up on love in the romantic sense, but not on love in the platonic and more enduring sense. Applications for the vacancy of a Domestic Partner - a cross between a housemate, critical friend and business partner - are invited. Sex and fidelity are optional, ie neither compulsory nor prohibited. Each "transaction" is deemed to be a one-off so that both parties are kept on their toes. There would be no assumption that either party would be spending, for example, St Valentine's Day with each other as a matter of course. So few people like this idea that the person, male or female, who says to me "My word, this is just the sort of relationship I have been looking for all my life!" without a hint of irony or sarcasm, would probably be The One . Domestic Partnership - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_partnership
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It isn't men who perform the accidentally-on-purpose pregnancies; that is almost exclusively within the province of women.
Men would not be taking the birth control pill to give her security. They would take it for their own, so they don't find themselves saddled with a 7 pound, six ounce annuity for twenty years. This issue has nothing whatever to do with how women feel about it. It's all about the men for a change.
BTW, any man who believes a woman when she says that she's on the pill and relies upon her honesty also deserves whatever happens to them.
And curiepoint - men have a responsibility too. If they are going to indulge in meaningless sex, then in the words of Jeremy Vile they need to "put something on the end of it" or face up to the possible consequences of not doing so. A little more personal responsibility on both sides would not go amiss.